How to Be and Feel Confident
In my humble opinion it takes a village to raise a child, and it’s a tradition that faded away decades ago. But even if you don’t have a village, parents are a good start!
But even though parents are key to instilling confidence in us women at an early age, that’s only half the battle.
You are still responsible for the other half of the battle! I can personally attest to this one.
Even though I was raised by two parents who built me up into the most confident version of me, somewhere along the way I lost touch with her.
Now you can grow up with crazy amounts of confidence but if you don’t believe in it then it wavers, trust me I know! So please understand that you can build up your own brand of confidence even if you didn’t grow up with it or you lost a little of it (or a lot of it, like in my case) somewhere along the way, there’s hope!
So strap up your boots and put on your cape and let’s learn to be the Gladiators that I know exists deep down in all of us!
Infusing that kind of confidence depends on quite a few things, but here are the particular ones that helped me in my journey back to confidence.
Talk to yourself!
Yes, I said talk to yourself :-) When your confidence is low enough that you don’t think you can do anything, then it needs to be built up. The best person to start that and do it consistently is you. So every morning when you wake up and look in the mirror, talk to yourself. Tell yourself how beautiful you are, how confident you are and how anything is possible when you believe in yourself. And if you don’t really believe it or it doesn’t feel quite right to say, then focus on a thought that feels more positive than that current one.
2. Write about it!
So often we hold our emotions and feelings inside and they don’t do us any good like that. When you are confronted with situations that you walk away from and wish you had done something different, then write about it. I don’t mean write what happened and think about everything that you didn’t do, write about all the things that you WILL do next time. Start to see yourself as that confident person, so that you understand nothing bad is going to happen by being who you really want to be.
3. Be about it!
Take the action! This is the scary part, but it really is the best way to really sink home that you are confident and there isn’t anything wrong with that. It’s about showing yourself that you can do it and that alone helps build confidence! So start small if you have to, just as long as you take SOME kind of action.
This was just the tip of the iceberg!
There are so many things that you can do and some may work and some may not, you may need to even tweak some of what you learn and create new ideas for building confidence. As long as you begin to take some sort of action then you are on the right track my loves!